Swimmy,
I know you miss your old t so much and I think what this new t is trying to do is to build up some sort of trust with you first before you go into the deep work.I think she is also keeping her boundaries tight because of your ex ts boundaries and your daily contact. Different ts work different ways, some ts would be horrified with daily contact and others wouldn't bat an eye lid. You say it helped you can you tell your new t that this is what you need and not what she is providing. Also can you not contact your old t yourself?