You used the word "therefore", in bold as if it were self-evident that part (2) flows from part (1), and it is in no way self-evident. It is not self-evident that somebody would necessarily need a partner who shares the level of sexual experience, just as people do not necessarily partner up with folks their body size or hair color or age or ethnic background.

Have you ever thought of that?

Also, you wrote that

Likewise, you use the word "as", in bold, as if it were somehow self-evident that any person whose first experience was not a good one would make a choice to not be very sexually active, which is wildly counterfactual and weird and not at all self-evident.

You write as if for everybody part (3) would lead to part (4), but this is not at all the case.

So you basically have far-reaching problems with the thinking process, in that you assume that your idiosyncrasies are somehow standard and would apply to anybody who would share your facts. You are of course entitled to any kind of idiosyncrasies, but as an adult who must be old enough (based on the fact that you have been married for 14 years) to have observed a variety of human experiences, you should realize that your idiosyncrasies are just that - your idiosyncrasies. So that would be a good topic for individual therapy, because, again, the issue of not seeing a distinction between an idiosyncrasy and a standard pattern is yours and not joint to the married union. And I would examine the issue regardless of whether you divorce your wife, because it would help you to distinguish your idiosyncrasies from a standard pattern in anything you decide to apply yourself to for the rest of your life.

Good luck.