>> One step at a time. It's hard to make giant steps.

That's the way to do it... You are right that change like this is a process and I actually look at it as part of the process of living just as much as all the events that play on us are.

Personally I think the best idea is to keep reinforcing those ideas whenever you can. Clearly you understand the challenges and it sounds like you also have a strong foothold in "controlling" those things that you DO have power over. As you reinforce them they will become more and more "natural" to your way of thinking.

Sometimes reinforcement can be just reminding yourself of the good things when the bad ones become overwhelming... if it helps you can write things like you have written here on a piece of paper and carry it around with you. I think it is also wonderful to talk about those wonderful things here... your son's health sounds like a real triumph for him and for you also, something you really deserve to be happy about, as if the pride you have in your daughter.

It certainly brightens me up to hear you talking about them in such positive terms. It sounds like you have really raised them well in that regard, so I do believe you have the power within you to make the changes so that you can live comfortably too.

I know it is very difficult but that's what support is for... we're here to help and support and so are people in your life.

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