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Originally Posted by Court_Knee
I guess I'm trying to find the line between being a slut and having unrealistic expectations on how long the guy should be willing to wait. If I can't say "not now but maybe in X amount of time" is it really fair to him to be in a relationship with no certainty that it's going to happen?
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If there is any likelihood that you would think that you are a slut (regardless of the length of X), you should not have sex until you correct your cognitive mistakes.
Also, since you write about it in an extremely cold, cognitive, and detached fashion, I do not think that you really need sex for yourself right now, so I would wait until your sexuality goes through a process of natural maturation. Female sexuality is often like cheese or wine in that it matures and becomes better with age. So I would wait. Someone who is so emotionally detached is going to have a pretty meaningless and mechanistic experience of sex, and I do not think it is worth it. You have never mentioned desire, connection, lust, longing, or anything else that is not cognitive.