Yes, it has, but it is up and down all the time. Our marriage life is like a rollercoaster that oscillates before we are really able to catch our breath, it seems. We've had times where we have really understood each other and connected emotionally, though those times are admittedly rare. But I completely do believe her interests and passions and desires lie with me, but that she does not realize how what she does affects me, especially in an extreme situation like this. I do not think her able to detect my feelings. Of course, communication is vital, and I know that and do try to communicate my distresses with her, but at the same time, I have a sort of expectation for a spouse to have, supplementally, a sense that they can feel when their partner is sad or unhappy about something?

But yes, we do a lot of decision-making together. I designed the strict budget we are on and she is very supportive at trying to keep within that budget, and she does try to talk to me about decisions before making them. But I do definitely feel that there is a disconnect, emotionally, that she has shown herself not able to make. So that is the struggle I am dealing with right now, how to mend this problem.

Those are very likely candidates. I know she is lonely and I am struggling to give her the attention she needs while still being gone for school and getting good grades to get the job that I'll need to support us.

Our marriage has definitely had mutual understanding, respect, and genuine love for each other. She is a good person, and loves me. I just think there are a few things in her personality or way of looking at things that are just really ****ing things up for me.