Some things don't add up;

In your earlier responses pertaining to why this is so traumatic and also the context of the 3way convo, you stated you and wife had conversations about fantasy 3ways, but she never let on that she had already taken it further than fantasy. Btw, that specific post has been deleted.

Then you say to adam, that you would never have chosen to be with someone who took part in a 3way...

Those are 2 contradicting statements, even if the 1 was only a fantasy statement.

The other thing that bugs me is this; You called your wife promiscuous... How does a 3way constitute promiscuity? It could've been her, a longterm bf and a trusted friend. And even if the other 2 people involved were not as my example above, were they random strangers off the street? Think about whether or not a label fits before you smack one on someone's forehead.

Promiscuous - Indiscriminate in choice of sexual partners

Nobody here is against you, from what I see we are just trying to point out the leaves from the trees for you, as you seem very blinded by your anger, disgust and pain. Next time please be more specific in your thread and state that you only want responses from people who agree with you, it will cause you alot less grief than reading through many different perspectives and opinions when you are not looking for them in the first place...

Take care.