My wife and I met with a couple's therapist today. We both like her, but I am a bit afraid she may over-react to some stuff... but at least she will keep us in line. She seems to tell it like it is, and has no issues with confrontation if needed (gently though, because if she were too tough, I don't think I would feel comfortable going back).
She seems to have a very calming effect on my wife, which is good. I don't know if she necessarily has that effect on me, but we will see. She seemed trustworthy and I actually wanted to open up to her about things... She will be in contact with both our therapists... I guess that's good for continuity. I just hope she won't press the recent self harm issue... I don't want to talk about that any time soon, but maybe in just general terms. It will be nice to have a safe place to address some of our scarier stuff where we both feel supported.
I hope it turns out as well as we are both hoping it will... so far we both have had good experiences with the clinicians at this place, so here's hoping that she fits the mold. They were originally thinking of assigning a male therapist, and I think we were both ok with it, but I think they talked to the drop-in group clinician and decided a female therapist would be better. I'm relieved because I can only tackle so many trust issues with guys at once, and this will make the self-harm thing a tiny, tiny bit easier to tackle... lots of hard work to come, as we learn to communicate better with each other.