Yes, I agree. Start planning. Talk to family, friends. Start saving if you can, split your accounts if joined and then leave. Don't tell him, go when he's at work or something and do not let him know where you've gone. A lot of abusers will turn on the charm when they think you will leave, but that ends when they've got you again.. If things are dangerously bad, if he hits you, then don't hang around, get going. If friends/family cant help you, there will be places for battered women.

Thing about being abused is that it saps out all of your confidence, personality and spark. This will come back with help/therapy when you leave. None of this is your fault, its the abusers.

Hugs to you and good luck. Please let us know how you get on..