I can see why this could bother you. I felt that way at first too.

My therapist used to mirror me, both in action and even in how she dressed for a brief period. We had a rupture two years ago and she stopped. I have to admit I miss it now.

Mirroring felt to the adult side of me awkward and weird at first – plus, I was not even sure it was even happening until I accidently jerked my head to the side and she did too! It just seemed strange and too close. I soon realized though that she was this person who cared enough to change even her body language to try to reach me. I imagine that mirroring like that is not easy to do while paying attention to everything else that they do in therapy. The effort she was going through itself managed to reach the adult intellectual side of me.

How mirroring works is still kind of a mystery to me, but I think it does. I do know that before our rupture, when she was still mirroring me, my inner kid was at the surface and ready to move forward. After our rupture and the mirroring stopped, I’ve really struggled to get back to that place. I don’t know if that is due to the rupture or the lack of mirroring, or both.

I think it worked with me because I’m working on attachment stuff though. If a person was in therapy working on other issues it might seem out of place.