I havent read this whole thread and I hope people willkeep in mind that my mom is dying while I write this and its affecting my thoughts a lot. I know we are all different and so what works for one, doesnt work for all. I agree with a lot of what newlife has said in his other posts and Ive often felt similarly that sometimes we only support each other in staying down with echoing each other in how badly we feel. This isnt a judgment because I know having others who can relate really helps us. I just dont want newlife to feel that hes wrong and I dont want anyone else to feel that either. Feeling wrong about feeling bad never helps anyone.