Ahh!!! Love is a very powerful human emotion.
I've been there and I longed for holding tight to it so it doesn't go away.
It's a fleeting thing for many people in our society. Because the man that u r presently in love with has trust issues it may b wise to let him go and move on with ur life. I know u may find that cold and uncaring but let me share with u something.
I'm a man who was married for some thirty-four years to the same woman.
When we first got married i was the happiest man on the planet!!!
As the years went by and I got older and wiser I discovered that my ex-wife no longer loved me. It was devasting to me.
At a job i was working some years ago I met and fell in love with another woman. I'm still in love with her but she also was married and had a lot of issues. Long story short we both lost our jobs to lay offs and seeing each other on a regular basis was out of the question.
Needless to say my ex-wife found out about my affair but what really hurt her deeply was how I felt about the other woman.
In order for me to move own with my life i had to remove all my good memories with the other woman. I was concerned about her well being and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't completely, or entirely forget about her. I'm doing better forgetting about her but when i hear a certain song, or drive by the places we use to spend alone time together, the memories come back!!!
I sincerely hope, that if u love this man like u say u do that you will be able to work things out.
If not, then I leave it 2 u to make the best decision..
"almosthere"
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Originally Posted by k12573n
I am in love with a man who is emotionally unavailable. I have been seeing him on and off for about three years now. He has a lot of issues. He was not treated well by his parents, ended up being raised by his grandparents for the majority of his life, was betrayed by women in the past, etc. He keeps me at arm's length most of the time and I never know when I will see him.
He has severe paranoia and depression, and never leaves his house. He recently quit his job, saying he didn't want to work nights anymore. He hasn't found another job and his savings is quickly evaporating. I worry about him but I also worry about myself.
In the past, I have gotten frustrated with him and tried dating other people. I have dated at least a dozen guys since I met him but every time I leave them or cheat on them with him. I don't want anyone else, I want him. I can only think of him. Everyone else seems like a joke to me when I compare them to him.
I don't know what to do.. Do I wait? Do I confront him about his behavior? Do I try to move on? I have tried cutting myself off from him, moving on, even moving away, all in attempts to get over him. It's all been in vain and I don't want to get over him, in any case. I just want to help him.
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