The trauma t (who I never discussed trauma with) used to ask that...so I never called or emailed her. XT (whom I am really missing these days) used to just seem to know what to say. And now I have set myself off just thinking of him...grrrr.

Anyways, I think just saying "I need help grounding" may work???? If that's what you need. But it raises an important point...that being, we should probably think about HOW we want T to respond BEFORE we contact them. This would help T and US a lot. (I never do this myself, but thinking I should if I ever T again)