MUE, one time I emailed xT in that state and I knew that if I wanted a response I needed to ask for one. So I said, "If you could reply with something... somehow you always have a way of making things bearable". He did send me a response that helped.. He just reminded me that I was strong and that I had been able to work through other issues and that I would work through this one as well..

Later he told me that my saying "somehow you always have a way of making things bearable" felt like a lot of pressure to him. Go figure...he told me I could call if I was in a crisis and then it felt like I asked too much of him.