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Originally Posted by HealingTimes
But i have found that therapy is not a linear process, and no matter how hard i try ( VERY hard, let me tell you!  ), i cannot control it. |
My T is also fond of telling me that the 'process' is not linear. With my own fondness of clarity and my love of making lists, charts, and outlines, the inability sometimes to recognize the progress made because it's not easily analyzed or contained in neat boxes, can be frustrating. I have really really needed to learn to 'see' with different eyes.
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Originally Posted by Perna
I had trouble with the onion metaphor and applying it to myself, one ends up with "nothing" if all the layers are removed? and I preferred to think of myself as a multi-walled city like Jerusalem |
Ah yes, metaphors - such inexact descriptions of our invisible experiences. I do love your metaphor of the walled city. Nice.
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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I think that often, being open to a change can bring the kind of change we didn't expect. You were open to the possibility of reducing your sessions, and it may be that making this kind of progress led you to where you are now.
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Yes, I think flexibility is essential to the complete arena of human life. Being open to all kinds of changes is necessary to find some kind of peace of mind. Clinging to anything, anything at all will be a recipe for disaster. One of the things we can be assured of is that change is always happening.
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Originally Posted by refika
It's hard and painful trusting the process. My T keeps telling me "you're going to feel worse before you feel better" and I definitely HAVE felt worse. But, knowing I have T's support and a scheduled session helps me get through the tough days.
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I know!! Feeling worse instead of better seems to be the 'absolute' in therapy. Of course, I don't know that for sure. I can only speak for myself but I wish I had have known that before I began therapy and maybe it wouldn't have been so hard for me at the time - if I had have known that the emergence of volatile emotions was 'par for the course'.
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
It was beautiful. Yes indeed, what a enigmatic process therapy is. There is no explanation for how or why it works because it is different for everyone as you said but your t is absolutely correct in saying that we have to trust the process. Your analogy of the onion is very apt to because the more I peel of the layers the more I cry.
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Ha
, I hadn't thought of the crying aspect of the onion metaphor. Yes!!
Not only trusting the process is necessary but so is patience, 'infinite' patience, it seems.