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Originally Posted by mike1127
Telling a recovering rape victim that men would like to masturbate to her pic is a terrible thing to say. Rape is a trauma of intrusive sexual attention, of the most intrusive and shame-inducing kind possible. Telling a woman that people would like to masturbate to her pic is usually intrusive sexual attention. It's the same f****** thing and I don't know how hard it is to see that. It's going to trigger all the fear and shame and disgust of the original event.
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Rape is not a trauma of intrusive sexual attention but more a violent crime and a terrible abuse of power. Nor is it intrinsically shame-inducing - I have fought rape attempts, luckily and successfully, and I tell people about them without feeling any shame. Shame is an artifact of societal views and not inherent. There is no more shame in being a victim of rape than in being a victim of burglary. So there is intrinsic fear of the original event just as there is intrinsic fear in any event in which you are powerless, and there might be quite a bit on intrinsic disgust, but there is no intrinsic shame.
regarding the bold part in the quote:
Most people are able to draw the line between men who masturbate in the privacy of their homes quietly and peacefully and men who abuse their superior physical power to force unwanted sex on their victims, much as most people are not color-blind.