As another analogy, my late grandparents were once attacked in a small forest that was on the way from their house to the closest train station. They had to give all the cash from their wallets to the attackers (it was a very long time ago before plastic money and checkbooks). So they were violated. But they continued to walk through that forest for decades. In the process of walking through the forest they would from time to time run into strangers. They were never triggered or frightened by the strangers. They interpreted the bad experience for what it was - a bad thing happening and there is always a risk of bad things happening in your life and no reason to become paranoid of innocent people, and most people are innocent.

A rape is definitely much worse than having to surrender all your cash, but having to surrender all your cash in a forest where worse things can happen was still unpleasant and qualified as a violation.