I agree with Hamster, first of all: forget the Zodiac analysis.

I used to meet men online, then in person, at a restaurant, etc. My opinion, after quite too much of this trying, putting myself out there for scrutiny, is that this sort of thing is like a "meat market." In most cases, you are being sized up based upon physical appearance, initially, despite having what you perceived as a "bond" of some sort prior to the face-to-face meeting. I do not mean to suggest that ALL meetings are like this, but I had my share of the scrutinizing first meeting, and I finally had enough of it!

This man you describe...sounds very deceptive. Who knows what his real-life situation truly is. He could be married! Or he could be some kind of shallow cad who is looking for an easy score. You just can't know because people on the internet can pretend to be anything and everything.

You are certainly NOT pretentious or idiotic for wanting a boyfriend. The website on which you met this fella...didn't you say friendship chat, but more sex than friend? That doesn't sound like a place to meet people of quality! If you want to meet people with honesty and integrity, perhaps investigate other sites. I can't recommend any, since the sites I belonged to were "reputable," and I still had bad experiences.