I can see why his morals/views on sex are important to him - and yes, there are many of people who think the same, especially in religions. But whereas I think that his wife lying is bad, (and I understand the pain) but I also think that his morals he decided some years back and set in stone are causing him pain too. This is his doing. When does one persons morals/views on sex become more important than the last 14 (happy) years? To find out that someone doesn't share them after all is sad and disappointing but does it have to be unforgivable and such a source of pain? Especially when 14 years of happy marriage proves that her different views on sex did not cause any harm - surely that should be speaking a thousand words? Be angry for her for the lies, but not for having different morals.