To the extent that your thread title is "I want to like sex, but..." - I have been advised that I should have same sex relationships or else my life would be incomplete (advised by someone whom I respect a great deal and who has made the most decisive positive impact on the course of my life - so not some frivolous advice), but I cannot make myself be attracted to women sexually. I appreciate the esthetic beauty of some women - much more than that of men, much more - but I just do not want to touch AT ALL.

To the extent that it has any similarity, apparently, you cannot will attractions, attachments, and the like...

FWIW