Thanks for the responses.
I did feel as though I did nothing wrong, that this was all her own drama and not mine.
These types of things happened in our marriage too, with the same outcome....she blamed me for not coming to her rescue.
Yes, I am numb but also not accepting responsibility for this. I bet her friends and family dont agree.
No matter, I am moving on. I have work and bills and a daughter who needs her daddy.