to try and include the whole family in things is hard at the moment especially as i cant get them all in the car, saturday picked up eldest from the hostel and then went to pick up youngest from friends stopped for a quick cuppa when second eldest arrived asking to borrow money (she spent all hers on card making stuff) told her i couldnt help her at that time, also explained there wasnt room in the car for her to accompany us on trip she went away sulking, took the other 3 children to vist the pets all they did was argue all the way there which made it harder for me, then took them for something to eat this was ok untill they got back in the car again i end up having to shout so i can concentrate on driving and then turn up the music so i cant hear them, sun booked for dinner for all six of us but eldest just played up while out which made feel like why did i bother, they dont see each other much why do the have to argue and play up