Well, it depends on the type of therapy that's being done, to answer your question. If the therapist works with sort of a Freudian perspective, then transference is actually desired, because the therapist willl get a better understanding on what's happened in the patient's significant relationships in the past. In this case, a lack of transference is sort of seen as failure!

However, remember, too, that therapists try to be caring and supportive of patients (at least in most types of therapy), so it's not surprising if we start feeling a strong attachment to them. It's probably in some ways the "ideal" relationship when they accept us unconditionally!

If we are in some types of therapy--such as a cognitive approach, then the therapist might not talk to us as personally, but be more like a teacher. I've found from my own experience with this approach that I came to like my therapist, but my feelings weren't as strong.