UGH. there may be some valid points in there, but he IS a jerk. that is just one viewpoint. if i had someone tell me i am lazy and unwilling (which i am and know), it would just piss me off, or depress me. i don't need anyone colluding with my already dark fears. i don't want a T to just sit and let me be complacent (i am working on this right now in therapy, actually), but this "tough love" wouldn't work on me. i'd shut down.