Hello

So a week or so I posted about how I wasn't sure what this woman I had started seeing wanted. Well long story short she divorced about a year ago and went on a handful of dates before we met. We met online but turns out we know some of the same people. She had mentioned her marriage was kind of a whirlwind affair but it was a year of dating and then a year of engagement before the marriage. I think they were together for about four years total.

We are both in our mid thirties went on a handful of dates and were seeing or whatever you call that each other for about a month. I know that is not very long but you kind of just feel when you have a lot in common with someone and enjoy being around them. The dates were amazing and she really enjoyed them. She kept telling me what her mother thought of the dates and told her girlfriend who is friends with my guy friend we had met and I am sure they talked about more than that.

The confusing part is our third real date went so well. She had me running around taking pictures of us to send her mother, we made out all over the park, and she kept talking about planning our next date. Then two days later she texts me to tell me all she is interested in exploring is friendship and that she thinks I am amazing and brilliant and there is going to bea lucky lady which will benefit from my romantic gestures. Unfortunately I am not interested in purauing anything beyond friendship at this point.

Now my response was not great and I told her I understood and thought she was an amazimg woman and wished her well finding what she was looking for. While I wished I handled that part a bit better we had two or so texts back and forth that night along the same lines of saying how great the other was and wishing them well. I have no idea what to do. This was a week ago and I have left her completely alone.

I am not sure if she was scared, kind of seems logical, or if she was just not into me. If she is scared I would love to tell her I can take a step back and hang out with no expectations. I know this is probably not healthy for me as I do want to be with her but at the same time I do not want to be what she was scared of. I could hang out with her while not waiting around for her but at the same time I am not sure I can reach out to her without scaring her further.

Any advice would be great.