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Originally Posted by newtus
i feel dead inside
i dont want to be compared to other people. even therapists do that. "theres a lot of people like you" "a lot of people go through the same thing." "i/he/she/they can relate". OF COURSE. im not that dumb. but what about ME? yea sure other people....but what about me?
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THIS, exactly. I hate hearing "oh everyone feels that way", or "a lot of people struggle with this", or "I can relate and therefore I'm going to make it entirely about me" kinds of statements. I only say to someone "I can relate" if it seems the person in question is looking for someone who can understand some of what they are experiencing, otherwise I go out of my way to not say stuff like that because it's totally invalidating.
It's so minimizing to be told stuff like that all the time. It's like okay, so a lot of people struggle with some of the things I do... great. Now what? How does that actually address any of my concerns at all? Oh right,
it doesn't.