I have had the same problems...feeling like I run around in circles due to my own crappy memory! I often can't remember what I told her so bringing stuff up feels like going through it all over again...and again and again and again. I do not have access to a linear story...so I can't just go in there and say "first A happened...then B happened."

I told her just the other day I didn't want her to feel like I wasn't trying and I have been feeling very frustrated because I feel like I have no control over certain issues or feelings, despite trying actively to use all my coping mechanisms. She immediately correctly this cognitive distortion (the one about her feeling like I wasn't trying...) although I'm sure it will take me months to believe her. Have you tried bringing up your frustrations yet?