PS Please no replies..... I realise I have messed up badly, and although unintentional, they are still messes of my making....

Altered State's post gave me food for thought. I am seeing things in a different light and will probably need some time away

I never meant to hurt anyone with my "vague" posts or anything else, but now I see how some could have been hurt. For that I am truly sorry.

I've been hurt and triggered too..... but whoever "cast the first stone" (whether it was me, or whether it wasn't) it's also true that "two wrongs don't make a right"..... and I have learnt, I hope not too late, to be quiet