I'm just adding with everyone that you should just leave. Especially if it's due to abuse.

I left someone after 10 years and I should have left at the least 4 years earlier. The decision was hard and I had said I was going to many times and didn't. I made the decision, rented a room and can honestly say I still look back with so much pride in myself over getting out. So much so that I can realize I should have left earlier and wish I'd had that courage.

To be clear, I wasn't physically abused. I was controlled, disrespected, verbally abused and just plain used. It made me feel horrible and I became incredibly unsure about myself, don't let someone else cause you to feel that way ever!