Ready, I originally couldn't talk about anger at all. Now it is shame that I still struggle with talking about. Anger was originally so difficult to talk about that it's kind of a running joke with T that when something is really hard, I will say, "hey, I know, let's talk about anger." It was a sign that whatever we were talking about was so difficult for me that even talking about anger was preferable to the discussion we were having.

The first time we discussed anger, I had absolutely no recollection of the conversation within minutes of leaving the office. The next time, I remembered bits and pieces of it. Now, I can stay present for the whole conversation. The thing that I noticed is that as I addressed my anger, and the fears that surround it for me (loss of control, etc), the fears greatly lessened, and so did the anger itself. I think part of it is just in sitting down and looking at the fear in a safe environment and getting it out there in the light so you can look at the fear and see it isn't so huge, and maybe not realistic at all.