When we are born we are perfect and innocent. Along the way a person(s) tell us a lie that we aren't good enough, etc.....actually abusers are projecting what they feel about THEMSELVES onto you. As a child you cannot know that, but as an adult you can work on that, recognizing there was never ANYthing wrong with you. It is difficult to erase those old tapes (lies that were told to us), but with work (therapy) you can begin to realize the truth.