For me, only friends that understand are the ones that have issues as well. I've been there with making plans and canceling due to anxiety. Some people just cannot comprehend what we go through because they have no idea what it feels like. How do you explain the struggle of doing something simple..? We are just wired differently. Real friends will be there to support you and you never know where you will meet one. I've made friends through social networking like meetup.com