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Originally Posted by jkbob
I know of people who see 2 different T's for 2 different reasons who then confer with each other when necessary. eg a couples therapist and individual therapist, an ED therapist and a general therapist.
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That would seem to make sense - to have different therapists for specific issues. But what about just the issue of travel time and needing more timely help than having to wait a month? Being very fond and attached to current T but not having such easy access to her.
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Originally Posted by Elektra_
hi. i dont think ur supposed to be in 2 at the same time. i did that for 2 times just to see if the new one was good for me to change but then i ended with my T. tc
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I'm curious why a person is not supposed to be seeing two T's at once.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I see two. It has not been a problem for me. They know I go to other therapists. They do not specifically know of each other. I do not talk to either about the other. They are both so called psychodynamic but very very different from each other. I would never consent to them speaking to each other about me.
I have read and been told some therapists have objections to it. I have never heard a compelling reason against it. The reasons I have been told and read about mostly surround the therapist getting their feelings hurt if they think the other therapist is better, more well liked and such (seriously - this is a reason actual practicing therapists gave me when I specifically asked) and that the types of "treatment (which I do not believe they are doing to begin with - none have been willing to try and articulate what such "treatment" would consist of and why it would be the correct way to proceed or why they were approaching me like they did - I don't really think they much know) might interfere with the other one. I don't think it would work if I was inclined to try to play them off of each other or if I discussed one with the other. But as I do not, it seems to work for me. I know there are people who disagree with the idea of seeing two. And for them, seeing two would probably not be a great plan.
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SD - do you find yourself discussing different things with the different T's? Do you tend to see one of the T's being more helpful in a certain way and the other T being helpful in a different way? Do you ever wonder if you're repeating yourself? Do you ever get confused?
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Originally Posted by Moodswing
I see 2 different therapists. T#1 suggested I find one who does EMDR. He felt he could not fully help me. Abandonment feelings were triggered when he suggest it. I felt like he was trying to get rid of me. I am crazy attached to him. Several weeks later I decided to take him up on his suggestion to split the transference and help me ease the painful attatcment feelings I had for him. So I make an appointment and it turns out that T#2 is incredibly nurturing and EMDR works. They only talked once T#2,was concerned I was being re-traumatized from the exposure therapy T#1 was doing without making sure I had coping mechanisms in place. I now see T#1 every other week and T#2 twice a week alternating with T#1.
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Sounds like it works well for you. And having a specialist seems like a very good idea.
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Originally Posted by sorta_fairytale
I see two right now...the details are too long to get into, but it's working fine and neither care. Plus their styles of therapy and how we interact are vastly different.
The other T knows I will eventually move on to the new T completely (it will be awhile) and agrees that it sounds like we have a great connection and thinks he has been beneficial for me so far. They both know why I am with 2 Ts and are supportive of the work the other is doing with me.
I tried 2 Ts one other time, and the triangulation was terrible...I had to pick one T. I was in psychodynamic therapy with both of those Ts, which is also what my new T practices, but not the other T. That might be helpful, in my case, for making it work.
Here's a quick breakdown of how triangulation works, even though therapy itself is not an example (and honestly I couldn't find a better source). You have to click the "Did you mean" link however, for some reason.
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hmmmm, the risk of triangulation. Thanks for sharing.
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Originally Posted by Syra
I"ve done it. I agree with StopDog.
I didn't do it for two different issues. It happened by accident. But I told both of them. I got something different from each of them. Sometimes I didn't like having to repeat so much of the story, but if it was too cumbersome, I could have just chosen one at any time.
Some therapists don't like it. I think that's parochial and to protect the T, not the client.
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Yeah, I suppose it could feel cumbersome to repeat story but I'm thinking how I have repeated my story to my one therapist and how just the repetition has lead to some insights. So, there might even be value in that.
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Originally Posted by Elektra_
if u have 2 people working on the same things what is gona happen? u will have 2 inputs about ur issues and how to solve them therefore ull be more confused. its what i think. tc
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That might be a risk - being confused. I think many T's, though, do not give precise advice but allow the client to talk and come to their own conclusions, their own 'truth'.
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Originally Posted by Miswimmy1
I am doing this right now. If u wanna pm me, feel free to.
Seeing one t weekly and the other monthly.
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Do they consult with each other? Then the monthly T would be up-to-date on what's going on with you? Or do you have to stuff a month's worth of 'news' into one session?
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Originally Posted by Nightlight
I saw two at the same time. I saw the second one once every two weeks at first, then once every three-four weeks. It was fine. If anything, it was helpful to talk to two different people about similar things. I find two different perspectives more helpful rather than less helpful. I don't find it confusing at all because it just gives me the opportunity to make up my own mind with additional information. However, often the two Ts came at things from a very similar angle anyway.
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Did they know you were seeing another T? How did they feel about it?
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Originally Posted by sorta_fairytale
I am working on different things with the two different Ts. Generally speaking, that is...not like the lines don't ever cross, but when they have, each T's advice seems to compliment the other's as we go along, so they are not providing me with two different "inputs" and therefore I am not confused at all.
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Your approach seems to offer a clear division of 'duties' by each T.
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Originally Posted by Syra
I wasn't confused. But I wasn't looking for them to tell me the answer.
I experienced as having two different people's perspectives and each had something different to offer.
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Exactly - are T's always supposed to be telling us the 'answer'? I guess it depends on the issues we're working on.
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Originally Posted by velcro003
i see two, and it all started because my regular T thought i needed a different approach besides just talking as it wasn't really helping me past a certain point. She brought in an EMDR-T who sat in sessions with us for almost a year, and now i see regular T twice a month, and EMDR T once a month. It is two totally different approaches, and I know my regular T loves it when I see my EMDR T because I usually have a lot to say  |
Again - an example of using a specialist T to supplement the regular therapy. I say a somatic T for a few times and my regular T had no objection because it was something so different.
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Originally Posted by photostotake
I see 2 different Ts for 2 different reasons. One for general therapy (my 1st t) and one for my eating disorder. I see each of them once a week. I've only had this setup for a couple of weeks, but it's working for me so far.
Plus, I believe I start an Intensive Day Program for my eating disorder this week too (I find out on either Monday or Tuesday). That means 2 more therapists will be involved, with one as my lead therapist in the IDP program.
That means 3-4 therapists on my care team over 40 hours a week. The only one I want to see, is my 1st t. I trust him completely and can tell him anything. I should also mention, all of these Ts can talk to each other too. Should be interesting.
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Wow! Congratulations of having lots of support. Having a care team must feel good - so many people who are on you side.