Hi Asiablue,

I don't have any experience in the sense of medical appointments, but T offered to come with me to a mental health assessment for a course that I was going to start doing. I really didn't know whether to take her up on it or not, whether it would change things, whether I would make a fool of myself and not want to see her again afterwards, if I would even be able to make small talk with her outside of the therapy room etc. I decided I would take her up on the offer and she was very supportive. It was great to have her there. I know thought that this is different from a medical appointment. I also worried about payment. I offered to pay for her time, i.e the time getting to the appointment, the time spent there and then travelling home. She said she would leave it up to me and that it wasn't about the money for her. She also said by not paying, it might make me able to believe her more when she said she really cares about me. I graciously accepted and did not pay her.

Good luck with whatever you decide. I too was nervous about having my husband and T there so I just took T in the end. Hope it all works out for you.

SuM