If your trying to get him to a Dr. the best time is during the depressive phase. That's when I feel most compliant. From your post it sounds as if time is running out at a faster rate. Is there anyone you know of, a friend, co-worker, someone at church, or a family member whom he trusts. It may seem hard to believe but bipolar persons are very sensitive to criticism Poor decision making is also a hallmark of being bipolar. Your always going to be the bad one, no matter what you do. There are so many things to consider and you need to think about yourself as well. I hope you do consider your daughter as well. I'm bipolar and 54 y/o and I have a lot of regrets. NIMH · Home go here and call, it's a start. National institute of mental health. There may be a local chapter in your hometown.