[quote=Readytostop;3095481]Healed... it sounds like you are making lots of progress... you have come a long way with talking about your trauma.... and how you see yourself... its hard to let go of old thoughts ....standards that we have of ourselves that we don't have for other people...

I've found that those personal "rules" , "standards", "shoulds" are really set from childhood... from childish thinking... like if I am nice and perfect than I can keep the chaos from happening at home.. so many thoughts and feelings that are not realistic but have been built into how I'm wired that its hard to let go...[/quote]


RTS- thanks for sharing that thought, this is something worth examining in my own life!