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Originally Posted by Clara22
Hi Rachel,
I am sorry for all you are facing right now. I feel reflected on your words, somehow. While I was living overseas, I was the only one that have rapport with my brother, my sister was always fighting on his mental health issues (she passed away in 2010). Now that I am here and see how he behaves on a daily basis (and react in consequence) I became "the evil one". (before it was my sister). My mom did not have a "good"relationship with my brother but recently, when exhausted she gave up. I somehow feel sorry for my brother because he is sick, but cannot help him, I just can't. And, if I could, I would not see him anymore, because he is not good to me
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Hi Clara, and thanks. Your situation does sound similar. Sorry that it is so.
Yes, my brother also calls some of us siblings crazy, bad, evil, mean, etc. I used to feel sorry for him too (that's how I got sucked in repeatedly and exploited/emotionally abused by him). But he is so destructive to everyone close to him, and an expert manipulator. I just have to have as little to do with him as possible. He adds so much stress on top of other stressors. None of us siblings really talk to him except the one overseas, but she moved away over 30 years ago when he wasn't as bad. They too have rapport and talk on the phone frequently.