Obviously, I can't speak for everyone, and there is a chance that your daughter will react to certain medications (or substances) like you or your husband (my daughter took after me), but I wasn't diagnosed until in my 30's, and I smoked marijuana from the time I was 16. At first it was because others did, but I soon found that it helped calm the crazy urges I'd get, or the anger and depression. So she may be right. For a long time, that was all I had. And it's certainly better than drinking, which was the next thing I tried. I believe medication is important, but just watch her to make sure she doesn't have a reaction like you did.