Narcissism is one of those personality disorders, that is complicated.

If, with all you know about your daughter, you'd know better how her personality is. If it helps give you solace, to the fact you've needed to step back from her, then finding out more about the various personalities can be helpful. There's a good deal of literature out there, that helps one learn to communicate with someone with narcissism. It helps explain why people behave the way they do, and how to not be victimized by them.

If this is your goal, to learn how to deal with your daughter, that is very different than your other two children, sure, why not, learning more about how to deal with others isn't such a bad idea.

The need for admiration, struck me. I'm trying, posthumously to resolve something from my past. And I came to this board, this morning trying to find a thread I'd been involved with, and someone had written that they could write a book, from their own experiences, on narcissism and they'd mentioned a book, and I wanted to find the title and this thread caught my eye, because in order to resolve something that is narcissistic related, and stop getting into little heated moments with people that remind me of my mom, I felt finding that book, granted there are many, was the best start.

Knowing about narcissism, where will this lead you? There's overt and covert narcissism and there seems to be a spectrum, just like with healthy people and I just hope you find the answers you are looking for and know that you are not alone when dealing with people in your life that are unappreciative, yet, always looking for adoration and thrive on knowing that everyone 'loves' them(or so the reflection would appear).

She said something really 'biting' didn't she?? And it's hard to pinpoint, isn't it? (asking from experience, wracking my brain to remember something painful that was mentioned and then triggered by someone else. it was my mom)