((( Peaches )))

I can see the predicament, and I've been experiencing something similar as well...or least, that's my perception.

I get the sense that when I tap into something that my T feels threatened or angered by, he treats me differently - which leaves me feeling like we are not on solid ground and there's a risk for undoing the entire relationship.

It leaves me less willing to talk to my T about certain things out of fear of the result. Ultimately, talking through it is what's necessary - but I understand the fear of the consequences. Maybe setting up a clear understanding and agreement with your T on certain parameters so that you can safely talk about it would be helpful.