I can understand your reaction to marijuana when you already have anxiety it can worsen the paranoia if you are not in the right mind before smoking. Honestly, I have smoked for a lot of years and then quit when I had my kids. I have recently picked it back again and I do find it soothing and when depressed over even tormented it picks me up. The bad thing is it is for only a little while. This is where it can become "addictive". You want to feel better so you smoke more and it can come to a point that you feel like you can't function without it ( I watched my husband go through this and it made him miserable to live with when he didn't have it). It is kinda like not having your medicine for anxiety. She really needs professional help. Yes, it takes time to find the right med cocktail and somehow this needs to be explained to your husband. Not every medicine works the same for each bipolar person. It took years before I found my mix, but it was worth the trial and error because now I am more functional. I wish the best fro you and your daughter.