I'm not sure if I should ask this question here or in the ADHD forum, but I think this problem probably stems from past abuse rather than ADHD. I could be wrong though.

When I was a child, my mom controlled literally everything about my life. She woke me up in the morning, kept track of all of my homework and corrected it, told me when to shower, told me when and what to eat, what to wear, and until I was 13, she even brushed my teeth. She was basically a drill sergeant and a constant voice of judgement in my life, not a mom. She would manipulate me by sabotaging my self esteem and as a small child would beat me into submission and lock me in my room for 12 hours at a time without food as punishment.

Now I'm 19 and while she's still way too involved in my life for my liking, I have a lot of problems keeping up myself. I only shower once or twice a week, I forget to brush my teeth for sometimes weeks, I sometimes forget to drink water or eat properly, and forget about having a regular exercise routine. I know how disgusting it is that I can't seem to handle my hygiene and I really want it to be as easy and automatic as it is for the other girls my age. I feel really immature and disgusting because of this.

Does anyone else have this problem? Do you think it is a function of my past? How can I fix this?