Thanks, Murray.

Therapy is not something that most people I know would understand.

I am not confident that I can trust T with helping me work through it, because if I were really honest with what I was thinking/feeling, it would most likely start another rupture.

And I can't really work through the dilemma with the members of group T, because I doubt that the people that would be willing to help me do that work are going to be objective about it. It also risks having some significant ugliness appear AND could compromise the integrity of the group - which would go back to being a rupture with T.

Dilemmas, dilemmas....