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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I don't think that therapy can just be about preserving an attachment. And I think the point is to grieve the loss of T and therapy before the therapy is finished. So I think I would see current T until I had my "happy ending", complete with grief and celebration, and then I would move on to a new T.
Oh, and I guess if someone wants to do therapy just to preserve the attachment, that's okay for them. I just wouldn't spend my money in that way-- I either need therapy or I don't-- but that is my value, I didn't want it to seem like I was making some universal declaration above.
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I guess I don't see it as 'preserving an attachment'. The relationship with my T has been investment in time and deep emotions.
My T knows my history and probably knows me better than anyone else. It has taken months to relax in trusting her and believing in her methods/expertise/caring/etc.
It would be very difficult to discard something of such value. And, it's not simply about keeping a relationship with the therapist but about how valuable the relationship is to my growth and healing.
I don't think I'd continue to see a T just because of attachment but the attachment is what has allowed and nurtured my growing emotional strength.
I have a friend, who, when she moved away, traveled 7 hours each way once a month to continue to see her therapist. He KNEW her and her issues intimately. Beginning again with someone new would be like starting from scratch, it would seem