I'm having a bit of a go with the house painter this last week and forward. He's the typical house painter, except he really has no work ethic at all. Most of them do really motivate themselves some. It is young man of 24 and he isn't a professional; I'm teaching him all he will learn. I think he might be ADD, as his attention to detail is non existent. He's pushed the envelope on some issues, and very close on others.

But the post is about me aHEM. My T is quite pleased and pointed out that previously this type of button pushing and triggering (such as being done by the painter) would have not only sent me to the edge, but set me up for a major upset and subsequent flare...yet I have maintained a good balance through this.

It isn't over... but I am consciously working at not getting upset, though I am miffed at the guy. I'm trying not to "what if" such as if he doesn't return or finish, or if...you know those. I'm trying to take it as it happens. LOL hopefully MORE will happen (like painting where it belongs??)

I hope the guy is just lazy, as I can help him learn to overcome that. I expected more from him today and he did produce...but then when I left, so did he (I went back to check after saying I wouldn't be back before dark.)

I can't get upset with him, it might run him off. I can't get upset also because it isn't worth the price I pay when I do.

I'm wondering if this is connected to my involvement with Dr Seliger's research on positive psychology.