Hi Nicoles,
Welcome to PC. It sounds like you and your family are going through a real hard time. This is a good place to get support and just vent if you need to. Unhappy relationships and divorces can sometimes bring out the worst in people. It might be helpful to just have a little distance from your mother for awhile or minimize your interaction. It can help to meet in public places so if things are not going well you can choose to leave.

Best wishes.