MUE... I don't feel its totally appropriate to do this but I sort of compare what happened to you to watching In Treatment. When you watch that show you see both the T in the "room" and the T in real life? This is sort of what you have experienced but remember you heard the xgroupT's perspective based on her impression of her experiences and what she has heard from others, you have your own impression? Is this the only time you have run into this incident? Or have you run into this same issue over and over again?

From what you said of your past, it seems like you have had issues in past with not standing up for yourself... not being empowered... but haven't you come a long way with your T.... if he really didn't like women to be decisive and independent would he help you work to that end?

Not sure the other T was right by trashing your T.... maybe it would have been better if she listened more and had talked less so you could have made your own decision.