((((CG)))) I hope you will find a really good therapist to talk to regarding the issues surrounding:
(A) feeling tricked/deceived into your marriage; as well as (B) the incredible difference in tone and pov between your two separate threads (one sounded fairly flexible, sugary sweet, pollyana'ish and the other very angry, entitled and judgmental).

I dont mean to sound harsh but please reflect on those two strikingly different personas that you are displaying (if that IS you writing in both threads). I would hate to be uour wife on the other end of having to deal with the two polar opposites.

Best wishes to you and your family.