The best part is that you do want to make the changes that will improve your life.....that is one of the most valuable traits that will get the necessary changed to be made. I was married to a guy who had serious personality issues & had no desire to change......his comment when I left him after 33 years of marriage was that he thought I would just keep tolerating him....even though those issues had been bothering me for all 33 of those years. The desire to fix the things that aren't working in your life is very commendable