OK, now I have the time for answering. I will answer from my original place in which I had a strong preference for bigger men - bigger in that sense. I have since worked towards dropping it, but I will respond as if I still had it.

So the preference was largely esthetic - for the look and feel. Esthetic preferences are valid and not vapid (a little word play) - see Aristotle et al.

The vagina is largely invisible because it is inside, so you cannot, to the best of my knowledge, have strong esthetic preferences with regard to vaginas, although I am prepared to stand corrected on it. Some of the guys I have been with never took a look at my vagina at all.

Out of the esthetic preference for the phallic form in general I prefer tall pine trees over fluffy trees, leeks over onions, and normal glass wine bottles over boxed wine.

I cannot viscerally relate to your "cake" saying because I do not have a sweet tooth and eat cakes strictly when I feel that the host(ess) would otherwise feel offended, and in those cases, I do not enjoy cakes - in fact even thinking about eating cakes makes me want to vomit - but I do understand the point you were trying to make. So your point was wrong because penises are outside of the male body and vaginas are inside of the female body and until medical technology progresses much further, this will remain a fact of biological reality in and around us.

On a different note, the preference for tight vaginas, of which I had not heard much until the unusual encounter with that former friend of mine that became the topic of the thread (and I have had four male partners since the birth of the last child who never expressed any discontent), makes me think that you subscribe to a mechanistic view of sex, to which I have never subscribed and never will because I find it incredibly boring. I am able, not frequently but from time to time, to have very powerful all-body orgasms from thoughts or from as little as touching a man who happens to be quite special on many levels, every so slightly, fully clothed and without any genital contact. Perhaps because I have been blessed with this ability, I have never cared about diameters in the functional sense, but I did have a strong look and feel preference for a bigger size. I suspect that the preference for a bigger size was limited to sizes that are big but within normal limits, and not porn star big - I realize that there is a tremendous amount of selection that goes into picking male porn actors in the industry. I would be willing to look at porn (I have never had an interest in it for arousal purposes, but would be more than happy to look in order to see if I like what I see esthetically) except that I have concerns that I would be disgusted by what I see, because I have a very narrow view of appropriate virility, and shaved/waxed bodies are outside of my range of appropriate virility, and since I am disgusted enough from occasionally seeing waxed male torsos in the swimming pool, I do not think that I should look at men who have had their pubic hair waxed, because I would not be able to isolate my reaction to the size of the penis from the disgust that I would likely feel from seeing a waxed male pubic area. If you know of porn that FOR SURE does not display waxed male bodies, please PM me, as I do not know how to look for it. Thanks and apologies to those men who either wax themselves or those men or women who prefer their male partners waxed - I acknowledge being very severely under-evolved with my Neanderthal preferences, but I cannot help having them .