From the voice of experience who left after 33 years of being married.....
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Do I stay and see what happens?
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I tried that for the last 13 years of those 33 years...it was miserable & the fighting doesn't get better so by the time I did leave I would end up seeing red when I had to deal with him....& the dislike turned to hate.....not good IMO...but I was trapped there. I got out a few times during those years but it was my house too & I didn't feel like I should be the one to give it up either & we couldn't sell the house several times during that period of time because of the economy starting even then.....I was very suicidal during the first part of that with the loss of my career I had no place to escape my bad marriage. By the end, there was also physical abuse beyond the emotional I had dealt with all my married life.
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Do I move into the guest room for a while?
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Like I said previously....not unless you are trapped there & can't do anything else because it only got worse for me
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Do I pack my bags and leave for a friends house?
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Probably the best idea so you can get away & sort through your thoughts & feelings....it's hard to do that when you are in the middle of a bad marriage.....be able to think more clearly & see a bigger picture.
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Do I file for a legal separation for the time being to keep insurance?
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I would talk with a divorce attorney & see if you can get insurance if you file for divorce....they usually have a free consultation.....they they charge you an arm & a leg....more so in California......$3000 the one I started there......but now that I left & doing an out of state divorce it's only $750 & whatever it takes to do the QDRO. If staying separated is better for you financially....they I would say, stay separated...unless he can end up hurting you financially the way my STBXH has done. I can't trust him to communicate & he's always been STUPID about anything financial....but if you don't have that issue....then separation can be the best solution.